For many years I have recognized troubling and confusing behaviors in my spouse which have indicated that he has a narcissistic personality. If I ever express my needs he will digest what I have shared and then within days or weeks he will have twisted, rebranded, and invented extra parts to the situation to make him the victim and the one needing support. Instead of finding relief from being able to discuss and work through an issue, I receive judgment and blame and it causes me much anxiety. How do I handle this type of behavior? I have learned to avoid giving too much information about my heart because it can and will be used against me in an unkind way. I feel I have let my guard down during EMS and bootcamp with the hope that this behavior would stop due to the unique and very thorough approach of the materials and tools we have been given this far. I allowed myself to be hopeful that I was wrong about his narcissistic traits and hopeful for change. I saw so much hope and even apology for an extremely destructive situation where I was methodically attacked and labeled by him. He has since stated that what he did was good because it made me who he wanted me to be. I have two points of concern; firstly that because we are working on connecting during EMS I am giving him deeply personal and heartfelt information that he will eventually chew up and twist against me. Should I be sharing with him from my heart, or am I setting myself up for an attack on the very things that hurt the most and I really need compassion and empathy for? Secondly, I am concerned that in my hope, I went into denial regarding the narcissistic behaviors and am setting myself up for deep disappointment having reinvested into the relationship at this time. I do feel anxious, confused and unsure of how to navigate the daily exercises and the EMS homework.