The affair partner is leaving to go overseas for 6 weeks. So we will be finished with the EMSO by the time they return. I am really hoping that the physical distance is going to help him focus on the course. He tells me what they discuss sometimes (I don't know if this is a good thing or not) and was honest about the fact that he does not tell her anything. I have seen some good things happening so far and my husband has really been trying to focus on the content. the issue with our situation is that we are on a partnership visa so if he decides not to end the affair and I make the decision to draw a boundary, this would mean I would have to either leave the country or if I get my own visa I cannot have my son live with me and I am not happy with that. It would have catastrophic implications. But allowing him to continue with that behavior is also not OK. I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. What would your suggestion be here?