I am the unfaithful spouse. I see lots of help for those who have decided to keep their marriage together. I have not come to that point and honestly not sure I will. I keep hearing "how can you do this to your spouse?" Or "why would you want to hurt your family by divorcing?" For me, the burning question is why SHOULD I keep this marriage intact? I'm not sure where to get help answering those questions as what I have been through has brought me to question pretty much everything I have been taught in church or society.