My husband had a "friendship" with sex with someone he says he wasn't really attracted to. She was in a bad marriage and he says they talked about how bad they had it at home. She helped him when he needed help (not monetary) and praised his work, his abilities, and his effort. He says sex was just something they did but nothing out of this world or special. No kissing or romance, just straight genital sex. No gifts, no effort on his part. This went on over 20 years, with years in between commencing sex again. Is it possible to have a relationship that you don't miss at all and where there was no emotional bonding on his part? He stopped the sex, without even discussing it with her, because she was getting a divorce and he felt she might want more. He knew he was not going to leave me and says it was not a deep relationship, it just was. They continued to talk though for years and she encouraged him in his exit affair and was upset he wanted to return to me after I found out. How is it possible for someone to have an affair this long without any emotional connection? Is this even possible?

Rick's suggested resources:

• Not Just Friends by Shirley P. Glass