My husband commuted out of state every month for 5 years. We eventually moved to the state he was working in, and 2 years later I found him and 2 different AP and flirting with another. We tried Affair healing counseling for one year but eventually I moved back home. He pursued me but I told him that even if we could find a way to try again, after his affairs, traveling out of state every month for 2 weeks would never be okay again. He said we were more important and he can find a job down in Florida, and give the one up that he has now. But instead he took a job there behind my back because he says it’s not a problem he can work remotely. Only problem is here were are, in the last 60 days, he has spent 4 weeks back in the other city and leaving again for 2.5 more weeks He asked if I wanted to go but I need a career to help earn money too and I can’t work remotely and he knows this place is full of triggers for me because it is where all of his AP live too. He made promises when he wanted me to reconcile that he has broken, he tells other people even in our support group that I got upset for no reason over him going to work leaving out the why I was so hurt ...when is enough enough, and is giving him an ultimatum okay?