Rick, I'm finally getting some honesty from my unfaithful spouse and her relationship with her AP. I've always felt like there was some sort of addiction there especially knowing he has been violent with her in their history together. She believes he is a narcissist. She feels he has been manipulating her since their "on again off again" relationship started 5 years before we ever met. He blames her for everything that goes wrong and insults her. Trying to analyze the situation, it's hard for me to understand why someone would risk wreaking a home knowing the affair is so emotionally, mentally, and physically unhealthy. She stated to me that she felt that he was the "makeup mirror" and I, her spouse, was her "vanity mirror." The only type of people he surrounds himself with are people whom he thinks are beneath him. This is so hard for me to understand right now. I know that she still fights the temptation to contact him. Can you try to help me understand this? Is she addicted to a narcissist? How can she overcome this? Thank You