My husband left our one year old daughter and myself in September of 2016. For an entire year I was clueless about what was happening. I took it very hard and knew our marriage had its difficulties but what was more difficult was how sure and confident he was in his decisions. He would come in and out of our lives giving us hope and then leaving. I've had several D-Days as he has not always been truthful, when he first disclosed his relationship to me he told me after we had been intimate and said he met someone a few weeks, I was devastated. A month later I learned he had been with this woman and myself at the same time lying to us both and she had two children of her own. I have always been open to reconciliation but he has not. He was extremely ambivalent for a year until he chose to divorce me and quickly got a home with this woman and her children. This was less than a month after our divorce was finalized. He is no longer with his AP he says he wants to be there for our daughter, but he still has feelings for AP and has no feelings for me. It has now been almost three years of being stuck hoping and I thought with the divorce that was my answer to let go. Should I be open to reconciliation with a man who is still very unhealthy and isn't putting much effort into recovery? I don't want to be in this same space a year from now.