My wife has been grieving the loss of her affair partner since D-Day. They were outed by his wife. A journal was found. She still romanticizes the affair and it has been almost a year since discovery. She discussed the affair with her cousin in the same manner, lamenting the loss of the love, and her cousin reinforced this behavior. I asked her to stop talking with her cousin about the affair and I have asked her to not keep any of the writings that romanticize the affair. She now states that she has no outlet to grieve and that the process of grieving has slowed. What is the healthy way for my wife to grieve her affair partner?