We are going through beyond EMS, and my husband knows to be open and communicate with me; to have full disclosure. But somehow he forgets to mention any financial situations with me when I'm not part of them. I'm a full time mom of four and don't have any income. He doesn't understand that it’s absolutely necessary for him to discuss with me PRIOR to making any decisions financially. I always find out after the fact about how certain things got paid or how he was able to "make extra cash" for certain things. It’s a huge trigger for me because although he's not lying to me, he's also not being honest! That’s how things went south at the beginning. It was me finding about things after the fact. He made "extra cash" to purchase the condoms I found for the stupid AP. He went and got himself his own bank account without me knowing until after I saw the bank's ATM card in his wallet. I'm so tired of all of it! I just want peace. It’s those little annoying things that really get me. I don't know how else to tell him. I sound like a broken record. What's it gonna take for him to get it? For him to come out and tell me about any financial situations... Without me reminding him? I've got my hands full with my 4 kids, one being autistic. I don't need to be a mom of another child! What do you suggest?