It has been 6 months since I discovered my husbands most recent affair. He has never disclosed anything to me. I have had to ask question after question to gain some insight as to how I was completely blindsided, and what happened. He has never freely came to me with any information. The only reason I know most of the story is by my persistence and until he is cornered. Then I only get some truth or lies. After each conversation he will say “there, that is it you know everything”. This statement he says has been repeated several times and it’s never truly full disclosure. I tell him I cannot go forward until the affair is disclosed. We have done EMS, currently in Beyond EMS, and we are each in the individual programs. Yet, he is still withholding. Never has been forthcoming. What do I do? Our therapist through all these months tells me to hang in there and not to throw away 30 years of history. Why do I have to work for truth when I was not the one that was unfaithful? I want to separate so he can work through his issues and I can work on my healing. We cannot build a new future until he changes.