My spouse’s affair partner was his high school first love that he never let go of. Part of his reason for having an affair with her was needing an explanation for why she broke up with him 30+ years ago. They were both late 40s when the affair started. Their affair lasted actively 4 years. Following 11.5 years of lies and deceit. They both have destroyed and devastated our daughter's life and my life! The affair partner has been the initiator of this very sexually depraved and vile affair. She has tried over the years to get in touch. His last note to her in secrecy was to let her know that she is and always has been and always will be his truest love and will be together in the end. For what, and why? It’s been hell.