My husband insist that his 10-month emotional affair was never physical. I don’t believe him. He went on multiple overnight/multi-night work trips where he and the affair partner got very drunk together and were staying in the same hotels. He is very defensive about this in general, but about the most recent trip in particular, which is when I suspect things got physical. He did not and has not offered information willingly, the things I know about the affair are things I’ve figured out on my own through looking at his messages. He promises there is no more, he cries, tells me he’s not lying anymore and there’s nothing he hadn’t told me, he swears on his mother’s life… then something else gets uncovered. He has also been mercilessly gaslighting me, trying to convince me conversations never happened, or happened differently to what I remember, or as a last resort that they happened but only because I pushed him into agreeing with me so I can’t hold him to it. So, will an emotional affair become physical with enough opportunity (and alcohol)? Will I ever really know?