Q&A Will the Larger Problems be Addressed?
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Question
My husband has some sex/love addiction problems, which he is addressing. But his acting out seems to be the by-product of other problems: being passive-aggressive, conflict avoidant, highly sensitive (everything is a criticism). My husband is so conflict avoidant that he will either not engage or go behind my back rather than confront issues. Two examples: my husband knows I am opposed to pictures of our child on social media. Despite knowing the damage of deceit, he posted some pictures behind my back. And if any kind of disagreement happens with others (such as parents/in-laws), he will call himself Switzerland and stay out of it rather than supporting me even when he knows something unfair is happening to me, and even when he agrees that someone has treated me extremely poorly. Although I can stick up for myself, his attitude feels so disrespectful and contemptuous towards me as his wife when he decides to do nothing or, even worse, tries to find a justification about how it must somehow be my fault. It feels like the same sentiments that led to the cheating. What about these larger problems of which the infidelity is just a part? Will they be addressed, or will we find ourselves at the bottom of another huge mountain even after we conquer the infidelity? I am trying to keep the faith because I do love him, and staying together is better for our child, but it’s so hard when it seems like the mountains never end.
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