Hi Rick. He has been told that I was a mother substitute and since his mom was promiscuous and caused him to be abused sexually, he has "punished" me throughout our marriage, seeing me as honorable and wonderful yet looking for sex and admiration outside of his marriage, then blaming me for every wrong done to him. It makes sense to me, but so what? I still need full disclosure and he still says half truths and the story of the affairs don't really have a timeline or sense to them. The therapist feels I know enough to start healing but I know that safety is an issue for me not to mention the total lack of trust. Is it time to just let him go even though he is going to a 12 step program and therapy? I feel just as hurt and conflicted as when we were together and he was so detached that I never knew what was going on in his mind and obviously in his life.