We have been working hard for 1yr 10 months to get past and heal from the betrayal of my husband. For 10 years of our 15-year marriage he was fooling around selfishly. We have (I think) completed disclosure. When do you stop talking about it? I find healing in talking about what I am struggling with. I am still processing the many years and people (which include best friends). He however wants to move on. I don't feel comfortable bringing up these thoughts and feelings and I feel like I'm slowly dying inside. Now what? We already completed EMS online and it was very helpful but what should the rest of our life look like in this respect. In 10 years I may have thoughts and questions or he may remember stuff that I want him to disclose/share. I don't want any more secrets and I want to know if a memory of his betrayal comes up.