Any remorse from the unfaithful ?

My husband is hiring divorce attorneys and going through our finances, changing passwords to our accounts, this week.

He has shown no remorse about his 3.5 year still ongoing affair.

He still lies about it. He cannot admit what is going on, what he does with her every day - even though he knows I know everything.
And I have proof - lots and lots of it.

He maintains the denial. I cannot understand the hold she has on him to make him do this.

I wonder if there will ever be any remorse from him.
He blames me for everything - he even says that I am the one destroying our family.
Everything I say, he says the opposite.