Beware. There are many marital counselors, friends, clergymen, etc. who profess "objectivity". But, seriously, are they objective? They weren't with you each day through the marriage. They rely on hearsay, on what they are told. Partners can have totally different subjective realities. My mate is a master at image management. With our first counselor, my husband was right in the middle of the "affair". Full fiercer, full steam ahead. Yet, I hadn't found out, and he didn't confess. Our "objective" counselor decided My husband was wonderful, and I was the one who needed fixing.
My point is that the objective party bases their advice on what the couple has told him/her. So, they may not really be objective.
I strongly believe that what is an iron clad need is experience. The fact that the authors of the programs, the counselors, and the mentors here have been through infidelity sets them apart from the rest. Even more, they are specialists! Do you really want your primary care physician doing open heart surgery on you? Then why rely on anyone other than those you find here? Plus, look how many "open heart surgeries" this team has done. Thousands.
So, I know you mean well, but objectivity is cheap. Experience is priceless. You find the master surgeons here. I know, because initially I thought there was zero chance of our marriage surviving. After completing Harboring Hope, EMS Weekend, and with ongoing counseling it's 100%, and our relationship is better than it's ever been.
Objectivity
Beware. There are many marital counselors, friends, clergymen, etc. who profess "objectivity". But, seriously, are they objective? They weren't with you each day through the marriage. They rely on hearsay, on what they are told. Partners can have totally different subjective realities. My mate is a master at image management. With our first counselor, my husband was right in the middle of the "affair". Full fiercer, full steam ahead. Yet, I hadn't found out, and he didn't confess. Our "objective" counselor decided My husband was wonderful, and I was the one who needed fixing.
My point is that the objective party bases their advice on what the couple has told him/her. So, they may not really be objective.
I strongly believe that what is an iron clad need is experience. The fact that the authors of the programs, the counselors, and the mentors here have been through infidelity sets them apart from the rest. Even more, they are specialists! Do you really want your primary care physician doing open heart surgery on you? Then why rely on anyone other than those you find here? Plus, look how many "open heart surgeries" this team has done. Thousands.
So, I know you mean well, but objectivity is cheap. Experience is priceless. You find the master surgeons here. I know, because initially I thought there was zero chance of our marriage surviving. After completing Harboring Hope, EMS Weekend, and with ongoing counseling it's 100%, and our relationship is better than it's ever been.