I am the unfaithful person in the marriage. I really yearn for recovery but I am lost on how to do it. Last year I engaged with a woman and our first time resulted into a pregnancy. My daughter with this woman is not two months. Since she was born, I have been experiencing so much anxiety and really want to let this secret out of the bag. Nonetheless, my woman has been undergoing a lot of stress that is not related to the infidelity. She has had several episodes where she wanted to take her life, but luckily, I have always been there to stop her. I am very remorseful about what I did. I want to disclose everything but I feel that I should at least wait until she is in a stable mental condition to take the tragic news as I intend to give her every bit of information she asks for. I am so sorry about the affair. I have prayed about it and walk with guilt each and every day and there is nothing better I would rather do than get all this baggage of my chest. I know there are consequences and I am ready to face them but how to tell my wife, under what circumstances, and the fear of having her going off and doing something like ending her life is my greatest hindrance. I know that this might not be my platform but I would appreciate any guidance on how to hop onto the recovery journey
Recovery
I am the unfaithful person in the marriage. I really yearn for recovery but I am lost on how to do it. Last year I engaged with a woman and our first time resulted into a pregnancy. My daughter with this woman is not two months. Since she was born, I have been experiencing so much anxiety and really want to let this secret out of the bag. Nonetheless, my woman has been undergoing a lot of stress that is not related to the infidelity. She has had several episodes where she wanted to take her life, but luckily, I have always been there to stop her. I am very remorseful about what I did. I want to disclose everything but I feel that I should at least wait until she is in a stable mental condition to take the tragic news as I intend to give her every bit of information she asks for. I am so sorry about the affair. I have prayed about it and walk with guilt each and every day and there is nothing better I would rather do than get all this baggage of my chest. I know there are consequences and I am ready to face them but how to tell my wife, under what circumstances, and the fear of having her going off and doing something like ending her life is my greatest hindrance. I know that this might not be my platform but I would appreciate any guidance on how to hop onto the recovery journey