We are three years out from discovery of my husband’s 8 year affair, 10 years of secret porn, and secretly masturbating our entire 31 years of marriage. We have completed EMS Online and had some therapy together and individually. Everything we have done has been from me initiating it or asking for him to seek counseling, which he did with a marriage counselor for about 4-5 visits and said he was all good and didn’t need to continue. All the lessons we have worked on talk about each of us doing our own recovery work. I feel myself starting to build up resentment that my husband has never initiated work on himself to understand the root causes of his infidelities. It leaves me feeling unsafe and I have not fully recommitted back to the marriage. I have talked with him about this yet I continue to wait for him to seek help for his recovery and it has yet to happen. He is being faithful, as far as I can tell, and is working on better communication, better meeting some of my needs, etc. Am I being too hard or unreasonable? I can’t seem to shake this unsafe feeling and recommit back to the marriage after all this time.