My husband is the one who did the double betrayal; emotional affair & complete financial wipe out. He still won't share any passwords with me on his phone or computer. I've thought for many years he's had a porn problem too. He communicated with his affair partner via an app and email. He has refused to give me access to any of that info. Am I wrong to ask to see that info? He's also still in the blame and defend mode. He is seeing a biblical counselor most weeks, who is not an infidelity specialist, and that counselor said he's willing to see us both, but has been working with my husband first.