Dear Leslie & John,
Ten months since D-Day and we are trying to heal from my husband's Emotional Affair. He goes to a private counselor, a psychiatrist to get continued medication for his Bi-Polar Disorder. We have completed the on-line Bootcamp, I am in a Harboring Hope class, and he has registered for Hope for Healing.

Fourteen years ago he went out with a former female colleague until 3 a.m. after a group of colleagues got together after work. After the rest of the group went home, they stayed at the bar. I told him it was extremely inappropriate and he assured me it would never happen again. Again, he assured me that nothing happened back then, but this morning he told me since I brought up her name last night he needed to share something with me. 

He sent her a private Facebook message 3 weeks ago. He justified his conversation with her by saying that he was just wondering how she was doing, that their conversation was innocent, and he has not talked to her since. He said he didn't want to hide his communication with her. He can't see how his behavior is such a setback. 

I know that people can be addicted to alcohol, drugs, sex, and a whole list of other things. My questions are: 1) Can a person be addicted to having Emotional Affairs? 2) Why can't he see the inappropriateness of this communication?

Suggested resources:

• Not Just Friends by Shirley P. Glass