Hello, I am wondering about men who avoid intimacy and how this character flaw can contribute to problems in a marriage. In 29 years, I have not been able to get my husband to disclose his feelings about issues in our marriage. I admit I am not an easy person. I admit I have a strong personality and a temper which perhaps have not helped him to feel comfortable in being open with me. I am very transparent and he is quite the opposite. Not even in therapy has he been honest and sincere about how he feels. It's easier for him to get angry and shut down rather than talk about how he feels. He had an affair a year ago and d-day was 7/31. He doesn't disclose what I need about the affair and he filed for divorce this past week. He knows I don't believe in divorce and would work things out if he wanted to but obviously he wants out. Since D-day, his relationships with his family and our kids is practically non-existent. He lacks communication skills and the conversations between them are quite superficial. Any thoughts and advice you can give me would me helpful in trying to understand this character flaw that is so difficult to deal with. Thank you.