My husband and I are 9 months from discovery day and are working to reconcile our marriage. We've had good help so far - the support of counselors, AR, many affair books, 12 step recovery, and more. We are making slow steady painful progress. My question is what does a healed and reconciled marriage look and feel like? How do you know when you are healed? What are the signs and symptoms of a marriage healed after infidelity?