I am 8 1/2 months out from D-Day. she has not stopped contacting him. It was a lot in the beginning but the last being 2 months ago. It caused another separation because, after reading her text--it was brutal, ie all his fault, he had her heart in his hands, he ruined her, she was leaving her life for him etc, he is now stuck in the guilt he has in "dumping" her. The separation is my idea, which he seems content about, because talking to him is like talking to a wall....it frustrates me to no end. He tells me he loves me. I guess my question would be is why if he doesn't want to lose me/his family isn't he jumping thru the hoops necessary? Why isn't he just so grateful I haven't left yet? He was until her last text to him.