Your enthusiasm for marital recovery is so uplifting. You almost seem to know that things could work out. Don't know the statistics, but from what I understand is that most affairs lead to the dissolution of the marriage. Not that I'm looking for that avenue, but I was wondering, if the marriages that ended up dissolving, would have survived had they taken up this program, and with what criteria would you recommend separation? The obvious is any abuse whatsoever. But at what point is the marriage so emotionally broken, that it had no chance for recovery? There are some people whose principles will absolutely not tolerate affairs, and I can respect that. (I am the unfaithful, and I can't see light at the end of the tunnel). The truth of the matter is that we have 3 kids, and had we not had any, we would have gone separate ways, but staying together for the kids will only create a situation in the future, when the kids grow up, with just the two of us in the household. Then what keeps us together?