AR has recently shown two vlogs discussing the betrayed and the importance of not chasing the unfaithful, setting boundaries, and letting the unfaithful know the relationship will have to be different and recovery work will be necessary for reconciliation to be considered. I am the unfaithful. My wife has established very clear boundaries regarding her lack of need for me and not wanting me involved in anyway in her life.

I am in the home, she says only because of our small children's need for me. It's been 9 mos. I have completed boot camp, HFH, and have been in counseling. I am pursuing her and trying to show her love. Does the same thing regarding pursuing too much apply for the unfaithful? Am I pushing her away by wanting her too much?