We are over one year out and I still have a lot of grieving and trauma to process. As more time goes by I have become emotionally detached while trying to accept that this is all real and permanent. Is this normal? In the good times we have it's typically because my mind almost forgets it ever happened. Then it will hit me so hard again that it is real and then my mind begins the process of looking at all the details again. It’s soothing in a way and makes me feel grounded to go over it at times. My husband on the other hand thinks this is trauma and that I’m stuck. Maybe I am. This mess is in my head and it’s been over a year. He made a comment when I mentioned that the anniversary of their first date was coming up. He said “that happened two years ago”. I felt sucker punched. Of course in my head I know that yes time has passed, but for me it hasn’t taken away the significance of the action. Is this a sign that I’m stuck?