My wife shared the “two sets of books” Expert Q&A where the betrayed wife shared her anxiety that nothing she knew was real. Rick proposed a metaphor of “two sets of books,” and framed the problem as the keeping of secrets in the second set of books, a 30%, perhaps, that the betrayed didn’t know about. I wanted to raise a concern about this metaphor. When there are two sets of books, the secret set is the real set. It actually records the all business operation. The “known” or “shown” set is a false front. Can you please address the problem of grieving memories like childbirth under the shadow of an affair? The “books” metaphor is too true, but not how Rick presented it.