Hi Rick. My husband and I are 13 months past Dday. I am the betrayed. My husband spent several months in ambivalence. I completed Harboring Hope. Four months ago he finally ended his affair. We have done no recovery work as a couple as he goes through the detox phase (I want to, he is not ready). He has read some AR articles to help him realize this phase is normal. He continues to struggle at times with his head telling him to stay in the marriage but his "heart" wanting the AP. He feels he has no clarity most of the time. He and the AP share the same workplace, he sees her every day. Can you share more about the detox phase process and the unfaithful gaining clarity? Does clarity just come with time, and can it come while he still works with her? I hope to do EMSO when he is ready.

Thank you Rick and AR. Your articles, Samuel's blogs, and Harboring Hope have given me the knowledge and support to navigate and heal through the most devastating life changing circumstances that infidelity creates.