Hi Rick. I am a betrayed, and my husband and I completed EMSO and also the 90 day MFL with our group. He had a 2.5 year affair with one of our friends and those programs took us to a place of so much healing and empathy for each other. He was even doing what I asked to make me feel safe. However over the past month or so, he's fallen back to old habits of being defensive and being cold to me. He even lied about where he had been one night. Yes, I'm worried he went back to the AP, but haven't found evidence yet. I've confronted him about relapse, but he's defensive. Not sure what more I can do, or when I should quit recovery. D day is 15 months ago and we finished EMSO in November. Thanks in advance Rick.