We are in Week 12 of EMS Online and I still believe that my husband, a porn and masturbation addict, only wants me sexually when he wants distraction from bad feelings. His behavior of being nice to me until I displease him in some way and then lashing out at me reinforces this belief. I don't want to have sex with someone who sees me as a distraction and not someone worthy of love for her own sake. This is a huge barrier to reconnecting, and it's not like I haven't communicated this to him. He just doesn't do anything to create consistent change. How am I supposed to address this barrier more than I already have?