As the betrayed spouse how and when do I handle family functions with the unfaithful’s family who knew and lied for my husband about the affair. These are family members I have taken in my home when they were in need. I feel very betrayed. I don’t feel ready to be around them and yet I feel like I need to process and get past it. I go back and forth with not wanting them in my life and rising above and loving them regardless of their role in my trauma. It could be creating more damage by avoiding them regardless of their morals or values and way the live their life. They are still family.