Our first discovery was a year ago. I found out that my wife has been seeing her affair partner for a year. She acted remorseful and we agreed to reconcile. But we didn’t go through a proper program like EMS Online. My second discovery was a year later, when I found out that she had relapsed only a month after our first discovery. It has made trusting extremely difficult since she took advantage of my trust after the first D-day. We have started EMS Online and we joined another group therapy session (RCA). While she has taken a lot of the right steps like seizing contact with her affair partner for 8 weeks now, living more transparently, and setting boundaries, she shies from engaging in the group therapy exercises. We are always the quietest couples in the groups because she speaks the minimum required. I am now suspicious of whether she’s hiding more information or feelings from me. When confronted she says that she’s not comfortable discussing these issues with strangers.