Q&A How Can I Convince My Mate to Be Tested for STD's?

My husband’s affair ended about 6 months ago. We still have not been able to have sex. In the Harboring Hope book on page 96, you mention that you recommend that couples follow a "sexual reprogramming guide". Where is this guide? Also, my husband refuses to get tested for STDs. He says that she was for sure a virgin and there is no need. His AP was a Christian and in her early 20s and I sort of believe she was a virgin, that is hard for me to handle if it is really the truth. I feel like if someone was a virgin then they wouldnt be the type of person to have an affair. But, anyway, how do I convince my husband that he needs to get tested for STDs before we have sex again? Thanks for all that you do. Your videos and articles have helped me so much.