Q&A How Can I Convince My Spouse That I've Disclosed All of the Details?
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Question
I am the wayward spouse and it has been 11 months since D-Day. My spouse keeps asking questions, detailed questions about events and affair partners that I simply can't answer. Its not that I don't want to, I'm trying to be open and honest with her but I simply can't. She's always been amazed that I can't remember conversations with her and our children like they can. I can remember some events, good times, bad times, but when it comes to conversations and details I just don't remember those types of things. I traveled so much, and all of it is just an ugly blur to me. Now she can't let go of wanting details I simply cannot give her. I've told her it would be much easier for me to just lie to her and make up things to say but how can I do that when I'm genuinely trying to be honest with her. How can I convince her that I have given her all the details that I can? She knows how many, yes there were multiples, she knows the timelines, when and how it all started and everything I did. How can I help her get past this (not forget) and understand I'm not trying to hide anything else?
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