Q&A How Can I Stay Calm While Talking about the Affair? To watch the video please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library. To watch the video, please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.Gain unlimited access to over 1,800 articles and expert Q&A videos.Already a Recovery Library member? Log in to listen to the full recording.Question: I am a the wayward spouse and for some reason I can not get myself to stay calm when talking to my wife about our situation. I know what I did was wrong and I know I need to be safe to help her work through it. But yet I can't seem to do it. I can't seem to show her to care and empathy she needs. I don't know if it my shame. I want more then anything to help her work through this and heal but I am afraid I can't do it for her. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.Sections: Rick's Q & A timeRick's QuestionsRL_Category: Emotional RegulationQ&A Recovery LibraryRecovery FundamentalsSafety in RecoveryRL_Media Type: Video