My wife has had a lot of self-image issues her entire life. Her affair partner took advantage of that insecurity and like an animal seized vulnerable prey. We are taking one of your courses, and hopefully we will reconcile. This question is important for her even if we don't. It concerns working on her self-image. I can only do so much to help her, and at some point, she has to help herself. I think a therapist could help her a lot, but she doesn't see the need and likely will not seek that out on her own. How can that be suggested to her without it seeming critical? She is already feeling extreme shame from the affair.