We are working towards full disclosure and there are so many instances where I’m left feeling really overwhelmed. The trickle truth has eroded my ability to believe this is the whole truth this time but we may be getting there. As we run out of infidelities there’s another aspect of honesty that’s more complicated. My partner suffered childhood sexual abuse that’s at the root of this behavior. I feel a lot of guilt from him about that and it triggers me because I can’t tell if it’s guilt from more untold truths. Are details about the abuse necessary for full disclosure? Would it help to know more? How can we reconnect if I don’t know what happened? How can we talk about this safely?