Q&A How do I Deal with this Horrific Truth? To watch the video please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library. To watch the video, please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.Gain unlimited access to over 1,800 articles and expert Q&A videos.Already a Recovery Library member? Log in to listen to the full recording.Question: We attended the EMS Weekend in May of this year. It was extremely helpful and opened the door for us to begin our recovery. However, when we attended that weekend, my husband had supposedly disclosed his infidelity, but in reality what he told me was all made up. The D-Day was Dec. 30, 2014, when I found emails on his phone. This past June the REAL truth came out, which he disclosed to me because he said he couldn’t keep lying. The REAL truth is beyond horrific to me - for 28 years of our 36 year marriage my husband has been seeing prostitutes on a regular basis. About 28 years ago he started out by seeing prostitutes on the street, but over the years he progressed to seeing high end prostitutes costing large amounts of money. He also confessed early on he went to adult book stores to masturbate and then progressed to watching pornography regularly at work after hours to masturbate. He had quite an elaborate system going on with his acting out, even to the point of buying cashmere sweaters and outfits for the prostitutes to wear, and which he would keep clean for them. My question is, HOW in the world do I EVER get over this terrible horrific truth? The fact that he initially lied to "spare my feelings" is so devastating and diminishing to me. He is trying to show me he loves me and is remorseful, which I do believe, BUT...when I have triggers and anger he retreats into feeling such deep shame that then I END up saying I am SORRY just to make him feel better. We are both starting to see counselors, him a sex addict therapist and me a therapist for partners of sex addicts. Do you have any suggestions or thoughts on how I can POSSIBLY get past 28 years of his cheating on me with prostitutes? He claims that over the years he has probably seen around 80 or more prostitutes. I feel he has totally ruined any good memories I might have had of our marriage and our life. We respect you and Affair Recovery so much and I would welcome ANY help you can impart to me. Thank you, Rick, so much.Sections: Rick's Q & A timeRick's QuestionsRL_Category: Find HopeHandling DiscoveryQ&A Recovery LibrarySexual AddictionRL_Media Type: Video