Currently we are 5 months from the discovery of a relapse. We are both in individual counseling right now. My husband currently goes to about 4-5 meetings a week as well. We are looking into EMS, but the next available is not until the middle of May. We plan on couples counseling, as soon as we are both stable individually. The relapse was an emotional affair, but was lied about and denied so vehemently, it leaves me wondering if there is more. At this point, he is incredibly frustrated with me. He wants me to stop asking questions and has said "he never wants to hear or say her name again." How in the world do I get him to empathize with me? He wants it to all be over and everything to be ok. He won't give me the time that I need to heal. He wants me to accept his words as truth. He said has said he has given me everything at this point, but I've also heard that before. My counselor is working with his counselor to set up a polygraph, which I feel is the only way at this point that I can move forward. He can't understand or accept that I simply at this point, can't believe his words. Any suggestions on getting him to "get it"?