Q&A How Do I Show Empathy for My Spouse?

I am really struggling with understanding and showing empath after my affair. It's not that I don't understand why he is upset I just can't respond properly to him. I think it's do to my history I was sexually abused as a child and in my previous marriage I was physically and mentally abused and he cheated on me. I didn't have these same feelings as I am dealing with from my partner now. I was upset he cheated but I just got over. It wasn't this big deal. I want to give him what he needs to heal but don't know how to.