My husband was very skilled in his deception and lies. He kept his love affair with a coworker going for over 3.5 years. I really had no clue! I saw no change in his behavior. The sexual encounters they had at hotels and eventually the affair partner’s home, the dates they went on apparently occurred during times when I thought he was at work. I truly saw no change in his behavior yet he was either skipping work altogether or going in late or leaving early to spend time with his AP. How then will I know that NOW he’s a changed man? What am I supposed “look for” to know that things are different?