Hi Rick, We have completed the EMS weekend and are separated still. My husband is still holding onto his AP. Not because he loves her or wants to leave me for her in his mind. But because he has a friendship with her and feels it's the one of the only friendships he has. Our therapist seems to support this for now. My husband fears letting go will leave him completely alone and he doesn't want to risk letting it go now to explore our ability to reconcile fully yet. Our therapist has encouraged me to be patient and I am trying because I know how detangling an emotional affair is complex and takes time. But I don't know what I can do to help create more safety for him to feel good about the risk of choosing me. Also, it's unfair of him to feel he has to feel good about it first before making the decision. It's tearing me and our children up.