Q&A How Does Sexual Imprinting in a Women during Her Teenage Years Impact Her Desire to Be Intimate in a Marriage Compared to with an Affair Partner? To watch the video please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library. To watch the video, please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.Gain unlimited access to over 1,800 articles and expert Q&A videos.Already a Recovery Library member? Log in to listen to the full recording.Question: My wife was raped when she was 14. She is 42 now. We have been married for 12 years and have three kids. She enjoys sex with me and can have an orgasm very easily. However, she has said she struggles with being intimate with me prior to her affair and now after. More because of her motivation on why she would be intimate with me. She had a 12 month physical and emotional affair. We are 3 months since 2nd d-day and no contact. We attended EMS Weekend in July. Rick said that women who have been through this find it easier to be sexual outside of marrraige than inside marraige. My wife agreed as she said the sex with the affair partner didn’t mean anything whereas she wants sex to mean something with me and that’s why it’s hard now for her. This is hard for me as I want my wife to “want” me like she did her affair partner and I feel he got the good exciting sex with passion and I want her to be as sexually excited about me. How can we find healing for this area of our relationship when we are both committed she is in Hope for Healing and I’m in Harboring Hope. We both want each other and want a better marriage. I would like for her to be excited about me sexually and to have freedom in this area of her life and selfishly I want to have great sex with my wife and want her to want me more than the affair partner.Sections: Rick's Q & A timeRick's QuestionsRL_Category: Q&A Recovery LibrarySexual HealingTypes of AffairsWhy They Did ItRL_Media Type: Video