What are some suggestions for getting past my short fuse and irritation I have towards my husband? It's not even anything to do with the affair or triggers anymore. It's been 22 months and now I feel that the smallest most insignificant thing will set off a spark in me. I'm very short with him. Avoid speaking because I know I'll get irritated, so I pretend normal. I'm fully aware that I am doing this and would really like to change this bad habit that I have started. I just don't know where to start.