Q&A How Long Is Normal for Him to Grieve the Affair Partner? To watch the video please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library. To watch the video, please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.Gain unlimited access to over 1,800 articles and expert Q&A videos.Already a Recovery Library member? Log in to listen to the full recording.Question: My husband had an affair that lasted many years and now 9 months after still will not tell me he loves me. He says he is still grieving. This destroys me as I have been doing what I can to find healing. I cannot move forward when he still holds onto her and the lies he wants to continue to believe. We have done the EMS Weekend and counselling. Sections: Rick's Q & A timeRick's QuestionsRL_Category: For The Hurt SpouseQ&A Recovery LibraryRL_Media Type: Video