Q&A How Should I Respond to My Wife's Feelings about Saving the Marriage?

Submitted by Rick_Reynolds 7 years ago

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My betrayed wife feels like she is compromising her morals by continuing in our relationship. As the unfaithful, how should I respond to this?

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I would highly recommend giving this a try.
 
-D, Texas

This is such a good question.

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This is such a good question. I too had to break my inner vow and continuously have to forgive myself for doing it. The way I was able to reconcile it is that God's call to attempt restoration when there is true repentance is a higher level of authority than my inner vow. But it took me years to get there.

I understand Rick's point, but I don't see making an inner vow to oneself to not stay in a marriage where there has been the emotional abuse of adultery as an "illogical" vow. It seems completely logical to me. But then, I am one who made it so of course I think it is logical.