Q&A Is It Necessary for Him to Be Proactive or Should I Be Happy He’s Doing What I Ask of Him?
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Question
My husband is doing the work. However, any work he has done is suggested by me or insisted by me. That said, he is doing things he’d never do before D-Day. It would mean more to me if he initiated something. If he read a book on his own that would blow my mind! I feel like I’m sorta enabling his laziness. Is it necessary for him to be proactive or should I be happy he’s doing what I ask of him? I have seen positive changes in him such as how he has opened up & communicates with me.
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