My husband is doing the work. However, any work he has done is suggested by me or insisted by me. That said, he is doing things he’d never do before D-Day. It would mean more to me if he initiated something. If he read a book on his own that would blow my mind! I feel like I’m sorta enabling his laziness. Is it necessary for him to be proactive or should I be happy he’s doing what I ask of him? I have seen positive changes in him such as how he has opened up & communicates with me.