Q&A Is It Normal for Him to Still Think about Her and Desire Her? To watch the video please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library. To watch the video, please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.Gain unlimited access to over 1,800 articles and expert Q&A videos.Already a Recovery Library member? Log in to listen to the full recording.Question: Hi Rick, my mate has already physically cut ties with a married person he had an emotional affair with 2 years ago. However, he still thinks of her daily and desires her. I feel that this is a continuous emotional betrayal to me as he hasn't let her go in his heart and mind. Consequently, this is hurting me very much. Is it normal and acceptable for him to still think of her and desire her so much after so long? Because of the hurt, I'm not cooperative with him, which I know doesn't help in our recovery. But how do I heal from the hurt when he hasn't let the affair partner go? He often says that he's back in our relationship out of the right thing to do and not because he desires to be with me. Also, how do we define monogamy from a Christian perspective with regards to an emotional affair? My mate has done Hope for Healing and is currently in SLAA; I'll be joining Harboring Hope when it's offered again; we've done EMSO and are we're currently pursuing counselling (though our current therapist hasn't really been helpful and we are searching for a new therapist). Sections: Rick's Q & A timeRick's QuestionsRL_Category: Breaking Off The AffairQ&A Recovery LibraryRelapse PreventionWhy They Did ItRL_Media Type: Video